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Let's End 2013 in a BIG Way.

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This past month I have been looking back over 2013 and reflecting on all of the things I have learned, the goals I have achieved, the changes I have made, and the relationships I have grown. I can honestly say 2013 has been one of my best years ever.

There have been negatives as well. I have failed at many things in 2013. I have wavered in my belief in myself. And I have let fear hold me back more than I would like to admit.

Yet despite the things that got in the way, I am grateful for all that I have lived and learned in 2013.

Last year at this time if someone had asked me what my goals were for 2013 I would have said, I wasn’t sure. Maybe I would have thrown out a few vague ideas like – eat healthier, exercise more, work less, enjoy life, travel etc.

I didn’t really know what I wanted or how to make myself happy. I was waiting for some amazing idea or opportunity or person to plop itself in front of my face and make my life perfect, and me happy. I realize now that I was afraid to dream big. I was afraid to even whisper to myself what my dreams might be. Afraid to take my happiness into my own hands. Afraid that I might actually have it in me to be and do and achieve something great.

Our greatest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our greatest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. – Marianne Williamson

I now know the truth in this quote.

As I sat down yesterday to do some dreaming about what I want to create for myself in 2014, I realized how much I have grown in the past year.

My dreams are clear. I can feel them in my heart.

My heart spoke boldly as I began to write my goals on the page. When I finished I read them over and my stomach began to churn. I closed the book terrified. They were huge. And I could hear a familiar voice telling me they were impossible.

But my heart was stronger.

My heart now often wins over my mind’s fear based reasoning. Above all else, it is this 2013 change I am grateful for: the courage to listen to my own heart.

In the spirit of that courage I have decided to share with all of you my top ten goals for 2014. 1. Law: More court experience, more responsibility, more pro bono… 2. Travel: World Domination Summit weekend in Portland; 4 weeks to Brazil and Peru… 3. TYS: Write and publish a book on Creating a Life You LOVE in Law… 4. Blog: Write 50+ blog posts, and 5 articles for other publications… 5. Personal: Complete and graduate from 12 month Accomplishment Coaching Program… 6. Health: Continue to develop positive habits, more sleep, less emotional eating… 7. Fitness: Run a marathon and a half marathon… 8. Relationships: More communication, more gratitude, more vulnerability… 9. Financial: Make at least $120,000, save at least $25,000 … 10. Giving Back: Volunteer 3+ hours a month with an eating disorder program in Vancouver…

Thinking about these goals still terrifies me, but it excites me even more; and I cannot wait to open my heart to each of them as the clock strikes 12 and the New Year begins.

My intention for 2014 is to let my light shine even more. To set aside my fears and courageously step into my own greatness. To dream big. To love completely. To live fully. To BELIEVE.

My motto for 2014 is: NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE.

Each day I will repeat this with conviction. Each day I will find courage in my heart and recommit to myself. And that is what will make 2014 my BEST YEAR yet!

My wish for all of you is that you believe with your whole heart in your own greatness. Whisper your dreams to yourself and then shout them out to the world. Let those around you support you. Commit to yourself and take a step with courage towards your dreams each day.

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Thank you all for being a part of my life in 2013.

Best wishes for a happy and prosperous New Year!



The easiest way to remember why you are awesome, regain confidence, and kick ass at life.

awesome life love create remember reflect The easiest way to remember why you are awesome, regain confidence, and kick ass at life?

Write it down.

Yes, that’s right, the easiest way to remember why you are awesome is simply to remind yourself why you are awesome.  And the best way to make that reminder stick is to write it down on a paper.

That seems unnecessary and uncomfortable, you say?

Well it may be uncomfortable at first, because we are taught to downplay why we are awesome. We are taught to minimize our strengths, dodge compliments, and shy away from self-praise. We don’t want others to think that we are self important, or, worse yet, that we think we are better than them.

So it may be a little uncomfortable to engage in self praise, but its definitely not unnecessary.

Its so easy to lose confidence when we shy away from our own brilliance. If we fail to see ourselves what we have to offer, we start to need more and more assurance from those around us that we are worthy.

So what I’m advocating for today is to step into your own brilliance. Give yourself a pat on the back. Acknowledge all you do that is amazing. Acknowledge who you are and why that is great. You don’t need to go around telling people why you are amazing all of the time (I admit that would get annoying pretty fast) – but do tell it to yourself.

And write it down.

Seriously. Put ink to paper. Write down all of the reasons why you are awesome. Then read it over and smile. Actually allow yourself to enjoy it just for a minute. 

There are a million reasons why you are awesome, and while it is nice to hear it from other people, its just as meaningful, and sometimes even more meaningful, to hear it from yourself.

The greatest discovery is realizing you love yourself, everything about yourself.

How will you ever be willing to give yourself and everything you have to offer to the world if you don't acknowledge how much value it could add to other's lives?

If you can't come up with reasons why you are awesome off the top of your head, think about what you did today, yesterday, last week, last month, last year. There are bound to be many examples of why you are pretty great.

If still nothing comes to mind, try looking back over the past few months of your life, with a few of these questions in mind:

  1. What have you accomplished?
  2. What problems have you solved?
  3. What goals did you meet?
  4. Did you volunteer or donate to a charity?
  5. Did you help a loved one?
  6. Where there times you made someone smile?
  7. Did you make someone laugh?
  8. Who did you help?
  9. What did you create?
  10. Did you give up something for someone else or something you believe in?
  11. Did you believe in something?
  12. Did you create a new good habit?
  13. Did you get rid of a old bad habit?
  14. Did you make a new friend?
  15. Did you give a gift?
  16. Did you make someone’s day?
  17. What are the qualities of character you most like about yourself?
  18. What are the physical characteristics you most like about yourself?
  19. Did you stand up for someone or something?
  20. What or who did you love?

Ask yourself any of the above questions, and any others you can think of. And when the answers come…Write them down!

It is getting close to year end, and to me it feels like a good time for reflection. Remembering all you do and all you have to offer is a great way to start. Let's all take a few moments and asking ourselves why we are awesome. Let’s get a little warm and fuzzy inside. Let’s find a little extra self love.

With self love comes self confidence.

With self love comes the ability to be selfless.

With self love comes the capacity to love, not only others, but every moment you are given, and every action you take.

So write down why you love yourself, and tuck it in your desk drawer, in the inside pocket of your jacket, or under the lining of your shoe.  And any time you feel a little down, a little incompetent, a little inadequate – pull that paper out - and let today’s exercise in self love buy tomorrow’s confidence.