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Three Gifts to Give Yourself This Holiday Season!

Christmas In this season of giving we often focus on buying gifts and being generous with our love and time for others. While I love to give to others and also to hear about all of the love people are sharing with those closest in their life, it is easy to get overwhelmed and exhausted by all the giving. There is a truth that is often forgotten around this time of year, and that is...

You can only love others as much as you love yourself.

So here is my invitation to you to give yourself the love you deserve this holiday season!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z4oLB2IIZoY&feature=youtu.be

The video is worth it I promise (!!) but in case you would rather read than listen - here are the three gifts I offer you to offer yourself:

1. Self compassion - especially in those moments when you may have had an extra helping of dinner or dessert or one festive drink too many. In those moments where you have a tendency to beat yourself up - give yourself some good old fashioned LOVE. (If you take nothing else on, please do this one!)

2. Give yourself the gift of personal growth and transformation in 2015 - check out the amazing transformational program I took this year Accomplish Coaching (www.accomplishmentcoaching.com) or take me up on a free one hour coaching session! Contact me for details on either! You deserve to love yourself and live your life fully! Start NOW!!!

3. If food is your issue, check out the incredible work of one of my coaching clients -Shannon Lagasse from Hunger for Happiness. She offers all kinds of tools, information and services on body love, and reinventing your relationship with food. Check out her website - www.hungerforhappiness.com - or get in touch with her to connect! Not only is she wise, she is hilarious, generous and incredibly kind.

This holiday give to yourself as generously you give to others. More self love results in more LOVE. Period.

Love and Happy Holidays to you all!

xo,

Danielle

p.s. Credit to me for the photo of the tree. Credit to my brother for picking out such a beautiful Christmas tree for my family this year. Credit to my parents for their beautiful home. And...credit to my incredible sister for the freaking awesome Christmas sweater I am wearing in the video!

 

The Imposter

time Today I signed in to the “admin” page of my website.

I have not been here in a while. It feels foreign. I am an imposter in someone else's space.

This place used to feel like home to me. I lived here week after week, pouring my story fiercely into the soft clicking keys.

Where did I go? I wonder. Often. And I haven't a clear answer.

And now, today, I have arrived. Unplanned. Caught off guard. Legal work left unfinished on my desk. I feel called to write, yet I have no particular story I want to share.

There is a beauty in extracting a piece of my heart and watching it flutter out into the depths of cyberspace. I have been longing for it. And yet I stay away.

My fingers ache for the keys. But my mind tells stories of suffering. My hands clench and pull away at the thought of sitting down and allowing the electricity to flow out of me into the screen. As if they know the spark will be too much. The shock too significant. I must resist.

Everything has changed since I have been here last. And yet not. I am still me. My head is still firmly held in its place. My heart still beats in my chest. But nothing is the same.

Where did I go? I wonder. I see glimpses. Me sitting at a coffee shop typing away about my experience. Striving to inspire.

I see her now, still. She sits beside me. Fearful of my fingers on the keys. As if she too knows the spark will be too much. The shock too significant. She may not survive.

And yet I have arrived. Grace. Fingers fluttering over the keys. I am called to write. It is no longer a story I want to share.

There is a fullness in allowing myself to Be here. Called from a deeper place. I have been longing for it. To allow myself trust.

Is this it? I wonder. The thing I wanted to share. Not a story, but a state of Being. A depth. A possibility.

I have arrived. An imposter, finally coming home.

xo,

Danielle

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How to make commitment work.

commitment Earlier this week I wrote about my internal struggle with commitment in my career and the questions that nag at me (loaded with a whole lot of judgment): Why can’t I commit fully to a career path? Why do I always doubt?

I have been struggling with which career path to choose this entire year, and last year, and to a certain extent every year since high school. I worry about not choosing the right path. And – the catch 22 – I worry that no matter what I choose it will not be enough. I worry that collectively, it is impossible to do the things I am up to - law, writing, coaching, speaking - good enough, and that individually, the things I am up to are not enough. So I don’t commit fully.

I have had enough of not knowing. I want to know myself to be committed.

So Tuesday night as I was going to bed I wrote a declaration on a paper: September 17, 2014 - breakthrough in commitment to career.

Here's what came up shortly after the clock struck midnight and September 17, 2014 rolled around. (It’s funny how declarations work if you really believe in them.)

Commitment must begin within. 

Unless there is an underlying commitment to something within my power, trying to commit to something outside of myself will result in attachment to outcome and my choices not being good enough.

For example, being committed to something outside of myself (a guy, a relationship, or how it appeared) did not allow my romantic relationships to work. I was attached to the outcome and constantly doubting whether I’d found the right guy or the right relationship, and whether it was the right time. 

The day I found the things that I really wanted to create and experience (the big ones being love and partnership) and committed to them knowing it was in my power to create those things in my life, I no longer had doubts. The pressure to find the right guy and the perfect relationship was replaced by the freedom to choose the guy and the relationship that I would empower to create with me the things I was already committed to creating.

Once committed to something within, we need to commit to and empower something outside of ourselves.

Once I own my power and commit to creating and experiencing the things I really want, then I must choose to empower and commit to something that will enable me to create and experience those things.

Without choosing a partner I would never experience partnership, and without choosing to love someone and to allow someone to love me, I would never experience love. I commit to the person and the relationship (things outside myself) and empower them to help me create the things I really want: partnership and love.

In relationship, you have to find a kick ass person who is committed to creating and experiencing those things with you in order for it to work, but it is so much easier to find that person when you aren't putting pressure on them to figure out how to meet your wants and needs, and putting pressure on yourself to figure out how to meet their wants and needs. Instead you empower each other to create and experience the things you both are already committed to creating and experiencing in your own life.

No pressure and full commitment.

When we start by committing to something within our power, our external commitments are enough.

I was not fulfilled in any area of my life until I started owning my power to create and experience what I need and want.

In my relationships I could not choose to commit to someone or empower them to meet my needs and wants, because I did not feel like I had the power in me to meet my own needs and wants in the first place. I was looking for them to save me, but didn't want to admit I needed saving, so I never let them in. I was also holding the other person as unable to meet their own needs. I was terrified of what I saw as a huge responsibility that came with being in relationship - figuring out how to make the other person happy and give them what they needed to fill a void in their life.

I didn't have the awareness at the time, but I can see now that as I started owning my own power to get my underlying needs and wants met, it became less and less scary to think about being in a relationship. The more I became aware of what I wanted, and held myself as powerful enough to create and experience it, the more I was able to empower someone else to help me create and experience what I wanted.

Only when I was enough, did it become possible for someone else to be enough. By owning our power we fill the void.

So what does this all mean for my career?

I can see that I've been trying to commit myself to a career path – a thing outside of myself – instead of first committing to what I really want to create and experience in career. I had not identified what I really wanted or owned it as within my power to create and experience. The result: I have been attached to how my career goes, I doubt whether I have chosen the right path, and, ultimately, no path is good enough to fill the void.

So early Wednesday morning as this awareness was building in my mind, I took a look a little deeper within.

What do I really want to to create and experience in my career?

It was so obvious. I want to make a difference. I want to make a difference in the lives of individual people in my life. I want to make a different in my profession. I want to make a difference in the world.  I want to make a contribution.

For the first time the chattering voices doubting my choices were silenced. It is so easy to commit to contribution. No doubt in my mind it is the thing I want in my career. And I know that contribution is something that is within my power to create and experience. 

Of course, in order to create and experience what I want, I still have to choose something external to commit to and empower, but the choice is a now a freedom, not a burden. I have the freedom to choose to commit to law or coaching or writing or speaking, or all of them, or something else completely. No matter what I choose, as long as I empower it to create and experience what I really want (to make a contribution) it will be enough. The path will be right because I empower it to be so.

And now for the choice.

In service of my commitment to contribution, I choose to commit to all that I am up to - writing and law and speaking and coaching. I choose to empower all of these things to create and experience contribution in my life.

Those words would not have fallen out of my mouth (hands) wholeheartedly a week ago. There were too many doubts.

Now I know it is enough and that I've made the right choice, simply because I say so. It is within my power to make a difference. I do not need to find the "perfect" career path in order to do so. In fact, it is only in my moments of hesitation and doubt, when I am trying to find and choose the perfect path, that I cannot create or experience myself as making a contribution. And that is because, in those moments, I give away my power to make a contribution to some external "perfect" choice.

So with all of that (if you haven't yet been bored by my winding thought process and somewhat philosophical nature of this post)...

Here's my advice:

1. Look within and commit. Determine what you really want in each area of your life, own that it is within your power to create and experience, and commit to doing just that.  

2. Look outside yourself and choose. Let your internal commitment guide you in choosing something which will allow you to create and experience the thing(s) you really want.

3. Commit to and empower your choice. By committing to your choice you allow it to be enough, and by empowering it you can create and experience the thing(s) you really want.

4. Repeat. Wake up every day and do it again.

We each have the power to create for ourselves the things we need and want in life. We must own this power, and commit to fulfilling our underlying wants and needs in each area of our lives, before we can commit to anything outside of ourselves in that area. Only then does commitment become liberating instead of burdensome. Only then are our choices enough. And only then are we able to empower something outside of ourselves and therefore create and experience what we really want. 

I'm not saying I will now and forevermore be committed without doubt. There will likely be moments when I give away my power. I may sometimes forget to check in with my underlying commitments. Old doubts may from time to time creep in. Integrity is not an all or nothing game. And yet I can't un-know any of this. This awareness is a gift. My task is not to be perfectly committed all the time. It is simply to strengthen this new muscle. To own my power and step into my commitments a little more each day. And to step back into integrity with my commitments whenever I slip out.

What you are committed to creating in your career? Do you have your own philosophy around commitment? I would love to know! Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments below. 

AND...just in case you have any lingering doubt, I am 100% committed to creating a life that I LOVE, and its totally within my power to do just that.

xo,

Danielle

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Back to integrity. Not an all or nothing game.

integrity That’s it! Never again! I swear this is the last time… Tomorrow I will…

My life has been filled with last times and tomorrows.

This is the last time I hide; the last time I lie. This is the last time I numb my feelings with food. This is the last time I create unnecessary urgency and work until 3am. This is the last time I play small. This is the last time I beat myself up.  This is the last time I sabotage my health, my relationships, my happiness.

I will never again compromise my integrity.

Starting tomorrow I will not take life so seriously. Tomorrow I will go for a run. Tomorrow I will say what I really think. Starting tomorrow I will get enough sleep. Tomorrow I will stop doubting myself. Tomorrow I will start taking action every day towards my dreams. Tomorrow I will love myself fully. Tomorrow I will speak boldly, with passion. Tomorrow I will choose differently.  Tomorrow I will be truly committed to creating a life that I love.  

Starting tomorrow I will live with integrity.

For so many years I have been trying to win at this all or nothing game.

I would sabotage my dreams with wild indulgence until I would become so disgusted with myself that I would gain the motivation to submit to a perfectly disciplined, perfect life. Complete indulgence to complete discipline with the snap of a finger.

I have idealized discipline. I thought, if only I could be strong enough to be disciplined all the time, how incredible life would be, how incredible I would be.  I would be a woman of integrity.

What I’ve learned is this: discipline is not integrity.

My definition of integrity (and the dreams I kept sabotaging) were missing a key ingredient, and that is commitment. Not the short term bursts of excitement that I had been confusing for commitment, but deep routed commitment in line with my values.

Here is what I mean…

I would say I was committed to my health but my actions gave me away. What I was really committed to was the appearance of being committed to my health and the appearance that I didn’t have to try very hard to have a nice body.

I would say I was committed to working really hard to become a great lawyer, but often times the underlying commitment was to working really hard to appear like I was committed to becoming a great lawyer, because that’s what I thought I should do.

I would say I was committed to creating lifelong partnership with the love of my life, but I entered every new relationship with power games and uncertainty. What I was really committed to was the appearance that I was trying to find love and a relationship that worked.

Don’t get me wrong, with each new diet, each new case, and each new guy, I really believed I was committed to my health, my legal career, and falling in love. And I can see now that what I felt was not commitment, it was excitement. I know that because it did not last.

The excitement would pass and the new thing would become the thing I “had to” do. Boring. Done with that! I’d fall hard off track into the dungeons of “indulgence” until the arrival of the next “something new”.

I can distinguish that in the past my real commitment was to come across the way I thought I should come across, regardless of what I was actually doing, and how I was actually being.

Being committed to appearances wasn’t going so well for me. I wasn’t happy in my relationship to food or my body, my career, or my romantic relationships. I didn’t know it at the time, but what I was feeling was a lack of integrity; a lack of commitment in alignment with my values.

My dissatisfaction prompted me to make a lot of real commitments. I committed to vulnerability and publically outed myself in a number of areas of my life. I committed to personal development and reinvention and hired a life coach, and committed to a year long leadership and coach training program. I committed to passion and play and brought in so much more joy into my life. I committed to love and partnership and created a whole new way of showing up in my romantic relationship.

I really want to add to that list a commitment to my legal career, my business, and everything TYS stands for, and if I am completely honest I am not sure I can.

Yesterday a friend (and powerful coach) reflected to me that I often show up super inspired and passionate in these areas and then disappear.  Over the top inspiration and passion – a little manic even – and then nothing. Gone.

The result?  It’s hard to continue to be inspired by me. And it’s hard to know what’s real.

Ouch. That was a good hard shake.

And it has got me thinking, what am I really committed to?

Am I really committed to TYS?

Am I really committed to creating a successful business?

Am I really committed to being a great lawyer?

Am I really committed to reinventing the legal profession?

Am I really committed to helping lawyers reinvent their lives?

Am I really committed to being a powerful coach?

Am I really committed to showing up fully and powerfully?

Am I really committed to creating a life that I LOVE?

Do I sometimes show up in short bursts of inspiration (2 week spoken word poetry challenge), and then quickly disappear (two weeks with no newsletter or blog post at all)?

Am I committed to all of what I say I’m creating…or am I really only committed to the appearance of it? Am I trying to achieve my dreams through excitement alone?

As difficult as it is for me to admit this, there is some truth to this dagger.

Sometimes I am not committed to any of it.

I think this lack of commitment is often driven by a fear that I am not good enough. Lack of commitment gives me an easy out for when I fail (because if I’m not good enough I am of course doomed to fail) while the bursts of excitement makes it seem like I am still all “in”.

In those moments of doubt I fall back into my well worn commitment to maintaining appearances instead of outing my uncertainty. When I’m coming from that place it makes sense that the result is it’s hard to be inspired by me and it’s hard to know what’s real.

I also know that there are many times when I am deeply committed to all that I am creating, and I would wholeheartedly and passionately answer each of the “Am I really committed questions”, YES.

So now you know that I am not inspired all the time, I’m not committed all the time, and sometimes I fail at creating a life that I love. So where do I go from here?

I would like to swear to you that last time was the last time I choose appearances, that tomorrow I will really and truly be committed to all I am up to, and that I will never doubt myself ever again. But I have set myself up for that trap too many times.

Instead I am committing to simply noticing whether there is commitment underlying my excitement, to outing myself as human more often, and to showing up powerfully where I am at.

And for now I will leave you with a thought to reflect on, that came to mind while I was writing this post.

Trying to achieving your dreams by excitement alone is like trying to reach the clouds by grabbing hold a helium balloon. It may pop, and there’s a good chance it will shrivel up before you get there. Commitment on the other hand is a ladder. It requires strong quads, but you’ll get there.

In each moment we have a choice. How many rungs will you climb today?

xo,

Danielle

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Suits & Capes: Week Two of TYS 10 day Spoken Word Poetry Challenge

August 18 – 29, 2014, Suits & Capes Poetry Challenge!

I have now completed my challenge of publishing one spoken word poem each weekday for two weeks on TYS YouTube Channel!

It was an incredible experience in stepping outside my comfort zone, and I had a lot of fun!

Last week I reported on week one, and now, its time for the breakdown of the second half.

On Monday, I tested out my new cape with a poem on the darker side.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GSCosmiHs6I

Tuesday, it was all sunshine and roses. I remembered play.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IWh3X1F3zq4

Wednesday I spoke about the strength it takes to live outside your comfort zone.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c-odC3OsrKI

Thursday I described that moment when you know, no matter what is required, things are going to change.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t8liGjB2TVo

And on Friday, for the grand finale, the cape came off and I got a little real.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q1yo8uOdhFg

Completing this challenge has been an exercise in stretching my comfort zone, in being with the discomfort of uncertainty, of digging deeper to find the commitment underlying the fear, and of choosing over and over again to show up anyway.

This is how I want to live my life. Out over the edge. Digging deeper. Choosing over and over again from my heart.

Near the beginning of this challenge I came across a quote by Dag Hammarskjold. When I read it, something inside me shifted. It gives me the strength to continue to show up.

When the morning's freshness has been replaced by the weariness of midday, the leg muscles quiver under the strain, the climb seems endless, and, suddenly, nothing will go quite as you wish - it is then that you must not hesitate. 

You must not hesitate.

Create a Life You LOVE.

xo,

Danielle

 

Suits & Capes: Week One of TYS 10 day Spoken Word Poetry Challenge

August 18 - 29, 2014, Suits & Capes Poetry Challenge!

I gave myself a challenge to publish one spoken word poem each weekday for two weeks on TYS YouTube Channel!

My start date was last Monday and I was incredibly nervous (and a little excited that I would get to wear a cape).

I now sit at half time. Five days down, five to go. And its time to breakdown the plays.

I can't say its been all touchdowns and slam dunks, but there have been a few good steals and checks into the boards (In case you were questioning, I do know those are all from different sports). It has been a lot of learning and a lot of fun.

And now...the moment you've all been waiting for...its time for the highlights reel!

Monday - I kicked off the first quarter with a blast straight from the heart and a question that sent everyone running. For the instant replay click here:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ip0PDmz95LM

Tuesday I darted and danced down so many paths the other guys never saw me coming. You don't want to miss this one - catch the excitement here:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TNNu_BCTMj4

I admit I got a little carried away with all that running around, and so, on Wednesday, I closed out the first quarter and started the second solid as a tree, with a major comeback play that got me grounded. Watch below to steal my strategy:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=04bqp_RoX14

Thursday required all my courage as I forged on through the pain of an old injury. For the guts and gore click here:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rLxQVC1ZO7E

Not to worry, my strength carried me through, and Friday, I ended the first half wearing my battle scars with pride. Check out the final blows before half time:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WpjBjQhFPOo

AND...there are five more days to come!

Subscribe to TYS YouTube Channel here to get up to the minute coverage on the second half.

Even I don't know what's in store, but it is sure to be exciting.

Until tomorrow!

xo,

Danielle

A Celebration, a Challenge, and a Gift.

launched First to CELEBRATE!!

My new site is up! Woooooooooo! Yeah!

This has been a long time coming. I am so excited to get this launch post out to you, and yet there is still more I want to do with this revamp. This site is not a finished product. It has not reached a perfect state.

Those kinds of thoughts used to be the ones that prevented me from putting anything out there ever. Now I can see that the messiness is the beauty of it. I have no doubt there will be more twists and turns and jumps and jags and EXPLOSIONS along the way. Kinda like life, this site oozes unpredictable beauty.

So despite the rough edges, TYS is LIVE. Open for all to see.

You can now read about what reinvented TYS is all about HERE.

You can read what I’m all about HERE.

You can check out what I’m up to HERE and HERE.

You can keep informed about what I’m up to (and get entered into a draw!! – see below) by signing up for TYS newsletter (top right corner above!).

AND you can join me at TYS inaugural reinvention EVENT: Problem to Possibility, on Tuesday September 16, 2014! More about that HERE.

And now…DRUM ROLL PLEASE…for the Challenge!

Next Monday, August, 18, 2014 I will be taking on a new and terrifying challenge, in service of TYS’s Mission: 10 days of spoken word poetry!

Starting Monday I will publish one spoken work poem each weekday morning for two weeks on TYS YouTube Channel!

That’s 10 days of me shaking in my boots as I bare my poetic talents for all to see.

Click HERE to check out my test run and get a sneak preview of what’s in store:

And last, but not least, my GIFT to you.

I am giving away one month of free life coaching!

The winner will be drawn at TYS’s Event: Problem to Possibility, on September 16, 2014.

Every person who signs up for my newsletter by September 8, 2014 will get entered into the draw. You don’t need to be in attendance at the event to win.

That’s one month (four coaching sessions) dedicated to you opening up new possibilities in your life and taking actions to create a life that you LOVE.

Sign up for my newsletter above and be entered to win!

That’s all for now. I will be back next Monday, and until then I will be hard core training, like THIS

Stay tuned.

xo,

Danielle

WELLNESS IN BRIEF

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WELLNESS CHALLENGE STARTS TODAY!!

Calling all members of the legal profession – CBABC Young Lawyers have a challenge for you!

I am the Wellness Officer on the CBABC Young Lawyers executive and a member of the section's wellness committee. I am writing this post to invite you all to join our 10 Day Wellness Challenge which starts today, June 23, 2014, and runs until July 4, 2014!

You can sign up and join in at www.wellnessinbrief.org. More information about the challenge is set out below, and on the Wellness Challenge website.

Wellness Challenge 2014

Do you have a wellness goal? Is it to dust off that bike and get outside to enjoy the sunshine, or complete a road race? Perhaps it’s to finally attend that yoga class you’ve been dying to try? Maybe it’s to cook that delicious recipe you found instead of ordering take-out from where they already know your usual order?

Share your wellness achievements with your colleagues and challenge them to be well too!

The CBABC Young Lawyers – Lower Mainland Section Wellness Committee challenges you to be well! We are encouraging all members of the legal profession – paralegals, support staff, lawyers of all ages, judges, court staff, etc. – to dedicate some time to wellness in any area of your life, not just health, each weekday for two weeks.

Register now  at www.wellnessinbrief.org!

Dedicate some time to wellness (in any area of your life, not just health) each weekday for two weeks and sharing your experience by:

-          Facebook – tagging and posting to the Canadian Bar Association 

-          Twitter - tweet us at @CBA_BC and use #wellnessinbrief and the day of the Wellness Challenge that you’ve completed (eg. #WCDay1, #WCDay2 etc)

-          Instagram – share your photos with us using hashtag #wellnessinbrief and the day of the Wellness Challenge that you completed it on (eg. #WCDay1, WCDay2 etc)

You get one wellness point for each day that you post.  We hope you will join in, be creative, and get a little excited about treating yourself well!

Be inspired.

Who needs a massage? Could you use a meaningful catch up with an old friend? When was the last time you went out to a movie? How good would it feel to declutter your office…to put that marketing plan you’ve been meaning to make down on paper…to get to know your colleague down the hall a little better…or to actually set up that coffee meeting with that someone who inspires you? Can you imagine the smile on your loved ones’ faces when you cook them that gourmet meal, or surprise them with a night out? What would it be like if you actually signed up for (and went to) that dance class, painting lesson, or volleyball team? And how amazing it would be to get that extra much needed luxurious hour of sleep?

These are all basic ideas. Creativity is encouraged. If you can orchestrate an impromptu office dance party, bonus points for you! We are so excited, and we hope you are too. This project is not about working less and living more, it is about incorporating wellbeing into the definition of what it means to be a great lawyer and member of the legal profession, so that we can have the capacity to give more in all areas of our lives, including our careers.

I hope you will join in the fun. Your wellbeing is the foundation for a life you love.

xo,

Danielle

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Its time for REINVENTION.

reinvention, time, change, new, reinvent, create A while ago a friend shared this poem with me:

There's a Hole in My Sidewalk By Portia Nelson

I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost... I am helpless. It isn't my fault. It takes forever to find a way out.

I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don't see it. I fall in again. I can't believe I am in the same place. But, it isn't my fault. It still takes me a long time to get out.

I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it is there. I still fall in. It's a habit. My eyes are open. I know where I am. It is my fault. I get out immediately.

I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it.

I walk down another street.

When I first read it, I imagined it reflected the way I had been living in the past. I thought I had changed. And I have. Yet I still notice myself coming up against the same walls, falling in the same holes, getting caught up in the same things, feeling the same frustrations, arriving at the same dead ends...

With every change, my comfort zone grows. New things that were once scary become options I can choose. Yet I’ve noticed that these new options often settle themselves into my old ways of operating. The old pattern emerges with the new thing.

For example, dreaming big was not something I used to do. In the past couple of years I have stretched outside my comfort zone and chosen this. First, I chose with fear and hesitation, and then, more boldly and comfortably. Not too long after, however, I let the new thing settle into an old pattern. My big goals became “have tos” and “shoulds” and I started to feel overwhelmed. I had to find an entirely new way of being, a different place to operate from, before the big goals felt any different than the old small ones.

The same is true with this blog. I hate to admit it, but it is often something I do because I have to. I do enjoy it, but excitement, passion, and love are often not the things that drive me to flip open my laptop and start typing. I have had resistance to posting on here for the past couple weeks, and have avoided thinking about why by making myself “too busy” to do it. The truth is blogging has fallen into an old pattern. I have lost touch with the excitement. I have let my "why" slip away little too far.

I have not forgotten my why completely. I can still see it out there. When I stop, take a deep breath, and close my eyes I can still feel my love for this blog and all it stands for. All I stand for. I just need to get reconnected. To remember the passion that had me start this blog in the first place. To remember who I am, and how I want this blog to express that.

I have been making a lot of changes over the past couple years. Not just surface changes; I have gone deeper. I have been working on reinventing my core ways of being so that I can choose without limits. So that the new things I choose do not simply fall into an old way of operating. This blog is evidence of that journey. This blog was the beginning of the end of “acceptable me” and the beginning of the beginning of the “REAL ME”, fully expressed in the world.

While I have made small changes to my blog since starting out just over a year ago, I have not shifted the core ways of this blog. It is time to dig a little deeper. It is time to shake things up and burst through the predictable walls. It is time to walk down another street.

It is time for REINVENTION.

For the next month I will be working behind the scenes on TYS reinvention. If you have subscribed to my newsletter you may still receive updates from TYS on upcoming events (like the 10 day wellness challenge coming up June 16 -13, 2014!), but new posts will be few, if any.

I will be back soon. For now, I am getting reconnected with ME and remembering my why, so I can continue to create this blog with passion. I am digging deep, dreaming big, and reinventing TYS from POSSIBILITY!

Before I sign out I want to express my deep gratitude for the possibility and connection I have had the opportunity to create through this blog. Sharing my story with all of you has helped me to remember who I truly am, and how to step into my greatness. It has helped me to create a life that I absolutely LOVE!

Thank you all for being a part of my journey this far. I hope it has, and continues to be, your journey as well.

Time to take this possibility to the next level!

xo,

Danielle

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